When you think ahead and do things for their well being

There are times in life when you have to make tough decisions for your family and in that process, you end up alienating yourself. Another way of saying this will be playing a "bad" cop (or villain) hoping that the affected person will realize later on that I did it for the sake of that person.

There were several occasions when I had to do this and I ended up losing my mentor, putting a wedge between myself and the cousins that I grew up with, and tarnishing my own image so much so that I was perceived as a cold-blooded person. It is one thing to contemplate such action and it is another for you to go about executing your premeditated plan.

However, if you are a decision maker, you have to live with your decision whether the consequence of that decision is good or bad. If you make a quick decision and the outcome is not good, you will be considered careless and impulsive. If you take time to make a decision and it doesn't turn out the way you wanted, you will be considered indecisive and cautious. On the other hand, if you make a quick decision and it turns out to be right, you look decisive whereas if you take your time in making a decision and it turns out to be good, you will be considered thorough and thoughtful.

Likewise, how people judge one's decision is based on the consequence not on the process or the effort. It doesn't matter how thoughtful or forward-thinking your plan is.

Since I am not an omniscient being or a person with foresight, there is no way for me to know the consequence of my action, but I do know that the consequence of my action will involve heartaches and regrets which will end up haunting me later in my life. However, you do take such risk on the premise that a change is better than a non-change. You also do take such risk to cut your own losses.